Prominent speaker Simon Sinek believes profoundly in 5 rules that every person should take to heart when trying to identify their ‘spark’. Sparks are those little little things in life that bring life to your life and energizes you. Getting hold of these is what gives you a sense of purpose and direction in life.
It is important that children at a very young age identify what their spark is, as this helps them find resort in it when in distress or depression. Generally, this is what helps them build up on self confidence and independence. These are those activities and skills which help children to uniquely contribute to the world and stand out from others. Children who are left to build up on their sparks mould their personalities.
Rule 1 – focus on what you want
There are different kinds of people; there are people who focus on what they want- that is the final destination they want to reach, and people who see the difficult path you need to tread to reach there. For example, if you want mangoes off you tree at home, you just want the mangoes but your friend who also wants the mangoes just sees only the difficulty involved in climbing the tree!
Rule 2 – take accountability for what you do
How many of us point at the person next to us or say “it’s not me, it’s him!”, what are all of these examples of? Aren’t these proof of how afraid we are to take responsibility for what WE actually did? It is very important that we learn to take responsibility for what we did. This practice will help you find the flaws in what you do and identify that sometimes you are the person blocking you from being who you are, or rather you are the problem sometimes.
Rule 3 – take care of others
When you learn to take care of others, you will eventually see the flow of love and affection in return when you run into a difficulty or a unprepared for situation.
Rule 4 – be the last to speak
Nelson Mandela is a world renowned outstanding leader praised and upheld by people from almost every nation and one important lesson he left back for us is ‘learn to talk last.’ One common misconception is that you need to be the first to talk up in situations, but what we do not realize is that by speaking up first you might discourage some people to give their real opinion because you have instilled in them already what your end decision is going to be. Second to this is that people feel that their opinions have been heard and given consideration when you let them speak first.